Worrying is a very bad habit. It brings nothing positive into your life, it does not solve problems and it does not get anything done. Frankly, worrying is stupid. Yet we do it anyway, and I’m the first one to admit it. Whenever I’m on a tight deadline, face financial issues or have relationship problems, I worry.
I worry about the past. I worry that my actions were not perfect. I worry that I may have done something wrong. I worry about the future. I worry about the challenges to come. I worry about unlikely what-ifs.
I have learned however that you could control worries. It takes a lot of hard and continuous work, but you can tame the lions of worries and make them purr.
Here’s how you can remove a big chunk of your worries right now.
Don’t worry about the past
Don’t worry about the past! The past has already happened. You can’t change it. You have no control over it. So why worry about the past? It is useless to worry about it since you have no power over it!
Don’t worry about the future
Don’t worry about the future! The future has yet to happen. You can’t predict it. Stop wasting energy worrying about the future! It is useless because you have no way to know what will happen!
Live in the present!
The present is where you must focus your energy. The present becomes the past, so by controlling the present, you get power over the past. The present also has a direct influence over the future: by controlling the present, you are shaping the future.
Use the past to get insights about what you should be doing right now. Get ready for the future by preparing for possible outcomes. Decide what you need to do to solve your problems and act on your decisions right now, in the present. The only thing you have power over is your own actions!
If you do everything in your power to fix what is worrying you, your worry will disappear. Either you will succeed in overcoming your problems, or you will fail. If you succeed, you will have nothing left to worry about. If you fail, you will know from the bottom of your guts that you have done everything in your power to succeed and your worries will disappear anyway. You don’t believe me? Just try it. Give it your all.
Stop thinking about what happened and what is to come. Live in the present, and take action!